One would like to think that God cares about them. This is a great comfort. The psychoanalyst Heinz Kohut talked about what he called a Self-Object. This is a concept in mind that is comforting. It comes from the mother, the original comforting object or concept. Then, Transitional Objects like Teddy Bears and blankets give comfort as the mother had. Ideally, with good enough parenting, this comforting process or object gets internalized. That is, one can comfort themselves.
Thinking of a loving god is very much like thinking of the self-object, a residue of love received reliably in infancy, and beyond in marriages and friendships. What is the difference between God Comfort and Self-Object Comfort? Well, the god idea has universal implications. God is imagined to be everywhere. On the other hand, a Self-Object is just that, an idea that is mostly about one’s self.
The idea of God includes the state of the wider universe, presumably created by God and not your mother. God is a is a more complex kind of comfort than Self-Object comfort. It is what you need when you are in a really awful situation such as after a spouse dies. Getting comfort in such extreme times of misery seems beyond the realm of psychology and the rest of what is called reality. People who consider themselves spiritual are especially concerned with the idea of big, universal comfort. They might not imagine a god is responsible for taking care of us, but something like god is involved in spirituality. Somehow, self comfort and god comfort are related. Aren’t they?