Dating in the 21st Century

People meet others today online, in bars, and the old fashioned way, thru friends. On dating sites, all sorts of algorithms are used to match people together. It is a high tech method to make more efficient the pairing process. So, these methods skip over “natural” ways people make decisions about whom they wish to affiliate. In bars and other more or less natural settings in which people still meet in the 3D world, they still need to make decisions: Who to approach? What to say? Will they like me?

Is there a way to combine the power of data processed by computers with data gained in real time? The widespread use of biofeedback apps worn by daters can measure one’s physiological response to another person. Does my body indicate liking for the other? Am I in the right mental and physical state to make a decision about them? If the other person has access to such data and the biology matches up, a match might be made on the basis of high tech even in a natural settting.

Given the rapid surge in biofeedback apps it should not be surprising to learn that such devices exist. They might be worn on the wrist in an Apple iWatch for instance. This allows users to unobtrusively gaze at the watch to make the critical decisions about approach and avoidance. One such device is the Body-Mind reader. Tap the links below to see what it is like.

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Heart rate gives you information about how your nervous system–the sympathetic part– is working to increase arousal or energy. High heart Rate (HR) usually indicates higher energy than lower rates. The interval between heart beats, changes moment-to-moment. These changes are called Heart Rate Variability (HRV). HRV is regulated by the parasympathetic part of the nervous system. Compared to slow change, fast change is associated with more control. The Body-Mind Reader measures both HR and HRV simultaneously and gives a user feedback about the alignment of their energy and control moment to moment. This promotes learning how to regulate ones body and mind.

See a demo of how the Body-Mind Reader works at video at: version=3&rel=1&fs=1&autohide=2&showsearch=0&showinfo=1&iv_load_policy=1&start=4&wmode=transparent

The device is amazing. At first I guided the Reader by changing activity, and I noticed the color changed as soon as I formulated the intent to do something. I can see that being “in the green” is a state of mind, not necessarily linked to any particular activity, or even the extent to which that activity is burdensome or enjoyable. That’s the potential of this device: to help us get into the right state of mindfulness no matter what the task.

David M, MD. Neurologist